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Severely Alienated

Falling into the severe category of parental alienation are those parents who become obsessed with destroying the child's relationship with the other parent and that parent's family and friends. Dr. Frank Williams describes this goal of cutting a parent out of a child's life as a "parentectomy." In these cases, a child will succumb to the alienator's programming or brainwashing and experience fear, anger, and hatred toward the target parent. When parental alienation is severe enough, children have no choice but to align with the disturbed parent against the target parent, thus destroying their relationship with the target parent. These children no longer have free will or the ability to continue loving the target parent. PAS describes the child's behavior in response to the brainwashing that has occurred; it does not describe actions on the part of a parent. The focus of this article in on children who are being severely alienated or who are already experi

Rosen column: Put kids first in divorce

MITCHELL ROSENChildren who are victims of parental alienation syndrome are likely to become emotionally damaged. For me this is the hardest part of doing counseling in PAS cases. Children need and deserve a mother and a father. To intentionally deny a child access to a parent for bonding, love and interaction is a loss for that child.If parents respected and enjoyed their partners, they would still be married. For that reason it is no surprise most divorces are ugly. Yet, I have seen many parents put their own pettiness aside to assure their children do not suffer. The parents make it a point to let their child know Mom and Dad can still communicate and wish their child well when it is the other parent's time with the child.It should not be hard to understand that kids need to look up to their parents. So, when one parent bad-mouths, misinterprets or intentionally misrepresents the other, this behavior results in a confused and anxious child.There are lots of ways that PAS messes w

A letter from an Adult Child of PAS

PLEASE READ: PARENTAL ALIENATION IS ABUSE! IT'S WRONG & LEAVES YEARS OF MENTAL & EMOTIONAL ANGUISH & DISRUPTION. LET'S FIGHT TO STOP PARENTAL ALIENATION NOW! This is a letter for the alienator how as an adult I feel towards that person and questions that surround me on more than one occasion. I hope you read the whole letter and the see into a child's frustration, confusion, and maybe hatred. Sometimes the hatred is reversed and I know leaves in me a deeper scar because of the part I played in it. Some kids don't always hate the alienator but hates their actions. It is such a terrible thing to do to a child but as an adult I sit back and say why didn't anyone else see this. Why didn't the judical system work for my brothers. Why did we fall through the cracks. Where does the law really work? The law, words on a piece of paper with some distinguishing number. They arent always right they don't take away my feelings and they sure didn't help my