Forms of Parental Alienation
At times an affected parent may withdraw leaving the children to the alienating parent. Children so alienated often suffer effects similar to those studied in the psychology of torture.
Alienating parents often use grandparents, aunts/uncles, and elder siblings to alienate their children against the target parent. In some cases, mental health professionals become unwitting allies in these alienation attempts by backing unfounded allegations of neglect, abuse or mental disease. Courts also often side with the alienating parent against the target parent in legal judgements because parental alienation is either difficult to detect or else the time, by mental health professionals, has never been given to the children to detect it.
Forms of parental alienation include:-
brainwashingcharacter assassination the false inducement of fear incitement of shameusing children to commit relational aggression against the target parentloss of self control flareups of anger unconscious alliances with the children against the target parentdelibrate denigration of the children's relationship with the target parent.
Parental alienation can all be mild, moderate, or extreme. Parental alienation often forces children to choose sides and become allies against the other parent. Children caught in the middle of such conflicts suffer severe losses of love, respect and peace during their formative years. They also often lose their alienated parent forever. These consequences and a host of others cause terrible traumas to children.
Parents so alienated often suffer heartbreaking loss of their children through no fault of their own. In addition, they often face false accusations from their alienated children that they cannot counter with the facts. Finally, they often find themselves powerless to show that this little-known form of cruel, covert, and cunning aggression is occurring or has occurred.
Critics of the "Parental Alienation" defence used in custody disputes say such legal arguments are not supported by research[citation needed] or psychological studies[citation needed], and this has resulted in battering parents getting custody of their children, despite a high correlation between battering and child abuse. Parents in custody disputes should know that custody evaluations do not assess for domestic violence, nor does the court seek out information from the therapists of victims. There have been numerous cases where assertions of abuse by the child, mother or father were documented as "parental alienation" against the other parent. The critics state that the myth of "Parental Alienation" defence thrives on one basic element, which is that narcissistic abusers as opposed to ordinary abusers have an uncanny ability to present extremely well in public, which leads to a situation where all they have to do is say that the allegations are fantasy and because of the manner with which this was presented the judge will buy into it. Critics state that abusers will deny being abusive, in an attempt to cover up their abuse where both the parent and the child say "it happened" and "it is true", it should not be the case that any judge or custody evaluator would not take it seriously but tragically this is what happens because the charges get turned around as 'an attempt to alienate the parent.' It is not disputed that, sadly the reality in some cases is that the victim ends up being the alienated one (his or her custody/visitation rights are restricted or affected), and the abuser is allowed to continue to the abuse. That alone should make it clear that while the "Parental Alienation" legal argument may not have the goal of causing harm to children, that is indeed what does happen with the rise of this disturbing trend.
Alienating parents often use grandparents, aunts/uncles, and elder siblings to alienate their children against the target parent. In some cases, mental health professionals become unwitting allies in these alienation attempts by backing unfounded allegations of neglect, abuse or mental disease. Courts also often side with the alienating parent against the target parent in legal judgements because parental alienation is either difficult to detect or else the time, by mental health professionals, has never been given to the children to detect it.
Forms of parental alienation include:-
brainwashingcharacter assassination the false inducement of fear incitement of shameusing children to commit relational aggression against the target parentloss of self control flareups of anger unconscious alliances with the children against the target parentdelibrate denigration of the children's relationship with the target parent.
Parental alienation can all be mild, moderate, or extreme. Parental alienation often forces children to choose sides and become allies against the other parent. Children caught in the middle of such conflicts suffer severe losses of love, respect and peace during their formative years. They also often lose their alienated parent forever. These consequences and a host of others cause terrible traumas to children.
Parents so alienated often suffer heartbreaking loss of their children through no fault of their own. In addition, they often face false accusations from their alienated children that they cannot counter with the facts. Finally, they often find themselves powerless to show that this little-known form of cruel, covert, and cunning aggression is occurring or has occurred.
Critics of the "Parental Alienation" defence used in custody disputes say such legal arguments are not supported by research[citation needed] or psychological studies[citation needed], and this has resulted in battering parents getting custody of their children, despite a high correlation between battering and child abuse. Parents in custody disputes should know that custody evaluations do not assess for domestic violence, nor does the court seek out information from the therapists of victims. There have been numerous cases where assertions of abuse by the child, mother or father were documented as "parental alienation" against the other parent. The critics state that the myth of "Parental Alienation" defence thrives on one basic element, which is that narcissistic abusers as opposed to ordinary abusers have an uncanny ability to present extremely well in public, which leads to a situation where all they have to do is say that the allegations are fantasy and because of the manner with which this was presented the judge will buy into it. Critics state that abusers will deny being abusive, in an attempt to cover up their abuse where both the parent and the child say "it happened" and "it is true", it should not be the case that any judge or custody evaluator would not take it seriously but tragically this is what happens because the charges get turned around as 'an attempt to alienate the parent.' It is not disputed that, sadly the reality in some cases is that the victim ends up being the alienated one (his or her custody/visitation rights are restricted or affected), and the abuser is allowed to continue to the abuse. That alone should make it clear that while the "Parental Alienation" legal argument may not have the goal of causing harm to children, that is indeed what does happen with the rise of this disturbing trend.
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