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DYSFUNCTIONAL CHILD DEVELOPMENT AND PAS This is an article written by   Joan T. Kloth. I found her years ago and joined her group which she runs for parents going through various stages of alienation from their children A lot of this information I know is true since I've been dealing with this for 18 years. Anywhere where the father is mentioned as being the targeted parent of course those roles can be reversed. Put the mother in where it says father and you have the situation where the mother is the targeted parent with the father being the alienating parent - such as in my case.

How Does Alienation Affect the Children

  Gaslighting The term comes from a play of the same name about a husband who attempts to make his wife think she is crazy. The actual definition is a form of intimidation or psychological abuse in which false information is presented to the victim, making them doubt their own memory and perception. ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting ) In other words, the victim is made to believe that someone or something is not what they think it is. In the case of parent child relationships, this could involve one parent deliberately destroying the once positive memories of their other parent with the express purpose of severing all types to the targeted parent. Below is a list of feelings and thoughts that one might have who is being gaslighted into not having a relationship with one parent. Your own personal experience may not involve all of these experiences or feelings, but if you recognize yourself in any of them, you may be a victim of psychological abuse and parental alienatio...

  This is a very accurate description of the difference between parental alienation and estrangement. There is a definite difference. Estrangement can be due to a justifiable reason. If there is no justifiable reason such as neglect or abuse then it's very likely parental alienation has been involved. 1 1 comment Active Randi Hartman We should say "alleged abuse" since there might not be any real proof of the abuse that the parent is accused of doing.

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  “Alienating parents tend to present well; targeted parents tend to present poorly. As a rule, alienating parents present with the Four C’s. They are cool, calm, charming, and convincing. That is because effective alienators tend to be master manipulators … In contrast, targeted parents tend to present with the Four A’s. They are anxious, agitated, angry, and afraid. That is because they are trauma victims. They are attempting to manage a horrific family crisis, usually without success, often while being attacked by professionals who fail to recognize the counterintuitive issues. Indeed, non-specialists often get these cases backwards” – Steven G. Miller, M.D., Massachusetts, USA

Open Letter to Adult Children Estranged from their Parents

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Interesting perspective from a kid's side. Kid of PAS

I read this book when it first came out in 2007.  Very insightful.  I'm sorry that so many kids, including my own, have to go through this.  There are so many issues and problems caused by this.   Adult Children of Alienation

This adult was alienated from his dad for many years and reunited. He   helps parents navigate through this critical time by showing them exactly what to say and do to maximize every moment to save the relationship. While your attorney protects your legal rights, we focus on the daily interactions and communications that will determine whether you have a relationship or not when it's over. I have taken several courses offered by Ryan over the years and have learned a lot.  I'm hoping that using his methods my daughters will one day come out of the cult of alienation.  To learn more about what he does, click on the link. https://ryanthomasspeaks.com/?fbclid=IwAR2h-cO3G-icbfqRv7YQtRUsv3q9NFj2GbXtWcybj0QleFY6T95o-T6vueA

This is an excellent video from Ginger Gentile which talks about the subject of parental alienation.  Very important to watch.  Click on the link below for the YouTube video. In North America, over 25 MILLION PARENTS are being erased from their children's lives after divorce and separation. The ERASING FAMILY documentary follows young adults fighting to reunite with their broken families. Through the eyes of 23-year-old Ashlynn, 12-year-old Lauren and 28-year-old Brian, consequences on mental health caused by profiteering high-conflict divorce court settlements are revealed. The film shows programs that encourage mediation and shared parenting which will prevent parental alienation and future childhood trauma, making divorce and separation less costly both financially and emotionally. The film ends with children and parents being reunited on screen and will inspire other kids to reach out to #erased parents, siblings and grandparents. Contact www.erasingfamily.org for help an...

  Alienated Parent vs Alienator   The Alienated Passive Parent : First, there is a difference between Targeted and Alienated Parent.  A targeted parent still sees and spends quality time with their kids while the other parent attempts to destroy the relationship.  The alienated parent has no relationship with their kids.  It is a living death.  The children are physically alive but emotionally and mentally dead to them.  When a child dies, there is closure because we know where they are.  When a child is missing or alienated, there is no closure, and hence the term “Living Death”. The alienated/targeted parent is the peacemaker, go with the flow, whatever you say honey parent.  They have given up all their control to the other parent.  That is until they try to take back the control.  Then this is a huge trigger for the alienating parent.   The Alienator Aggressive Parent: As for the aggressive alienating parent, they...

Falling into the severe category of parental alienation are those parents who become obsessed with destroying the child's relationship with the other parent and that parent's family and friends. Dr. Frank Williams describes this goal of cutting a parent out of a child's life as a "parentectomy." In these cases, a child will succumb to the alienator's programming or brainwashing and experience fear, anger, and hatred toward the target parent. When parental alienation is severe enough, children have no choice but to align with the disturbed parent against the target parent, thus destroying their relationship with the target parent. These children no longer have free will or the ability to continue loving the target parent. PAS describes the child's behavior in response to the brainwashing that has occurred; it does not describe actions on the part of a parent. The focus of this article in on children who are being severely alienated or who are already experi...